Fiery Libidos. Whew! Is it Getting Hot in Here, or What?
I know I’ve talked about the joys of being oversexed on this blog before, but it’s been a hot topic of discussion all week with one of my happily married cyber-sex guys, so I thought I’d talk about it again.
Here’s the thing. Some people (raising my hand high!! *LOL*) have libidos that just won’t quit. We think about sex 24/7. Basically, we want to fuck all the time.
Well, how do you handle something like that? What if you’re married to someone with a cooler libido? What if you look very conservative on the outside, and no one knows you have this raging inferno inside you? How do you keep it all together without exploding, or having an affair, or doing something really stupid? This is what we’ve been discussing all week.
I’ve said this before, and it’s true. Oversexed married people need safe outlets for their libidos, especially if their partners’ libidos are cooler.
It’s funny, but people who are not oversexed think erotica novels, porn, or cyber-sex make us even hornier. Not. These outlets actually help us burn off some of that excess sexual energy in a safe way. Seriously.
Wes used to think I was so horny all the time because I write and read erotica novels. Nah, I’d be much hornier without it. Erotica, porn, and cyber-sex are fun fantasies that offer us a way to express ourselves sexually without endangering our marriages.
Let me say upfront I’m not condoning an addiction to porn, erotica, and cyber-sex. That’s destructive behavior and not what I’m talking about here.
Okay, like many women, I’m not into porn, but I absolutely adore erotica, as you all know. Not only do I write erotica novels every day but I also read lots of erotica. Same with cyber-sex. It’s major fun, and I play every day with a few really wonderful guys. We’re all oversexed, we’re all happily married, and our spouses know this is just a sexy game for us. Nothing more. Of course, I do tend to make my guys rather frisky and "inventive," so I hear their wives benefit in spades from our playtime as well. *naughty grin*
And that’s the point, isn’t it? A safe outlet should be one with the potential to benefit your marriage rather than destroy it. I think the worst thing an oversexed married person can do is deny her/his sexuality and hot libido. This isn’t something that’s going to go away if you try to hide from it or resist it. There’s no off-ramp with a libido like ours (LOL). If you try to ignore it, sooner or later you’re going to crash and burn big-time. Count on it.
Believe it or not, being happily married and oversexed can be an absolute joy, even if your mate’s libido is cooler than yours. It’s just a matter of finding the right balance between marital sex, self-servicing, and safe playtime outlets like erotica, porn and/or cyber-sex.
I do it every day. And as you know, I’ve been married for almost 30 years. Yeah, I’m one verrrrry happy slut, and I love being oversexed. It’s such FUN! I mean, what’s not to like, ya know?
Speaking of that, I’ve got a hot sex date with Wes tomorrow. Yowza! I’ll tell you all about it on Monday. You know I will…. *lusty grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Erotica and Paranormal Romance Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog…updated daily *wicked grin*)
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Erotica and Paranormal Romance Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog…updated daily *wicked grin*)
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