Let’s Talk Body Image
Sometimes I hear from women who’ve gained a lot of weight for one reason or another as they got older. Or they feel their breasts are too large or too small. Or their ass and thighs are too big. Or their waist is too thick. Whatever.
This often makes them feel unattractive. And they think their lovers or husbands feel the same way, even if these guys say they don’t. Soon these women develop low self-esteem and poor body-image issues. Believe it or not, this can kill your sex life. Horrors!
Let me tell you a story. When I was in high school I met Debbie. I was a junior, and she was a senior who had transferred from the wrong side of the tracks (yeah, I grew up in a verrrrrry small town).
Debbie was 5′6" and slim. But her face was pockmarked from a bad bout of acne when she was a preteen. Her breasts were small, and her hair was mousy brown with an unflattering curl, so she wasn’t what you would call pretty. Not even close.
Guess what? She acted as if no one had informed her of these "negatives." Instead she strutted around campus like she was a beauty queen. No kidding. Her posture was not only amazing, but incredibly sexy. Those two things…her awesome posture and her positive self-image…transformed her into a Sex Goddess. Really. No wonder guys in high school, college, and beyond flocked to her like bees to a honey pot. And why not? That’s exactly the image she projected.
At that time I’d always wished I had larger breasts. Mine are perky but small (between an A and a B). However that wish died the day I met Debbie. I took one look at how her awesome posture made her small breasts look sexy as hell, and I realized body image is all in the mind. Cool!
Yeah, I’ve been I’ve been a Sex Goddess strutting my stuff (and loving my small perky breasts) ever since, thanks to Debbie’s positive example. The fact that she was a bad girl like me and attracted to bad boys only made her lesson more meaningful. *naughty grin*
Ladies, if a poor body image is keeping you from the sex life of your dreams, you need to understand it’s all in your head. Really. Body image is simply a matter of perception, and perception can be changed from a negative to a positive in an instant.
Don’t let a poor body image keep you from taking advantage of your husband’s or lover’s gorgeous cock and bod. Chances are he thinks you look just fine, or he wouldn’t still be around. Chances are he just wants to love you and fuck you. So let him.
You’ll be glad you did. And, oh, the fun you’ll have. Just ask me! *lusty grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Erotica and Paranormal Romance Novels
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Erotica and Paranormal Romance Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (excerpts from all of my novels)
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July 8th, 2009 at 7:57 pm
Body Image
You are so right! Most of a woman’s sex appeal comes from her attitude about herself, especially her air of self-confidence! I sure wish I had realized this much earlier in life, but better late than never.
I had a lot of work to do on myself before I could appreciate myself for the woman that I am. My self-esteem was in the gutter for years, due mostly to being raped at a very young age. I only saw my negatives. Ha! NOT ANYMORE!! I hope anyone who reads this will pay attention to your words and learn to fully love themselves for the wonderful person that they truly are. Life is so good once you really live it!