Looking for a Yummy Alpha Guy…?
Lots of my readers and fans are single women, and many are looking for Alpha men to date. They all want to know how to find one. So I thought I’d pass along some of my experience in this post, since I seem to attract Alphas and Uber-Alphas like moths to a flame (okay, a verrrrry lusty flame *wicked grin*).
First, if you are an Alpha woman, don’t bother reading the rest of this post. Alpha men and Alpha women rarely get along. Too much competitiveness and aggression. Alphas are first and foremost attracted to Omega women. We seem to have an inborn talent for soothing "the savage beast" in an Alpha and an Uber (LOL). Fortunately for all the Beta and Gamma women out there, Omegas are a very small group. There just aren’t enough of us to go around for all the Alphas and Ubers. Good news, right? *grin*
Okay, let’s say you are a Beta or a Gamma woman, and you’d love to hook up with an Alpha man at an online dating site. Here are some things you need to know about Alphas and Uber-Alphas:
1.) Uber-Alphas are ego-maniacs and totally into appearance. Theirs and the women they bed. I know it sounds superficial, but when it comes to first impressions this is so true of an Uber. For that reason you’ll find more Ubers at a gym toning their bods than Beta or Gamma men. Why? Because they are incredibly vain. So if you want to attract an Uber take extra time with your appearance. Look as pretty as you can all the time. Yeah, Ubers are picky that way. How does this translate at an online dating site? Post the prettiest pic you can find of yourself. I’m not talking the sexiest pic. Just the prettiest one.
2.) Alphas do not like aggressive, argumentative, bossy women. It makes them snarl. Why? Because Alphas want to be the boss (grin). They also don’t take criticism well. So keep anything you post in your dating profile sweet and non-pushy.
3.) Alphas are NOT I-feel-your-pain people. Trust me. That’s not to say they aren’t compassionate. They are. But they won’t express it in their words. So don’t get too emotional in your profile. You’ll scare the we-willies out of an Alpha with stuff like that. Really.
4.) Like I said, Alphas have incredibly short attention spans for the touchy-feely stuff. Ubers are even worse. So no long love letters to them. No long flowery prose in your dating profile telling them about how you "feel." You’ll be lucky if you can get an Uber to read the first sentence (now you know why my Uber never reads my blog *grin*). So keep your profile description short and factual. One paragraph with five, short info-packed sentences will do the trick. It’s not that these guys don’t like to read. They do. And it’s not that they aren’t intelligent. They are. They’re just very impatient. These are action-oriented guys. So give them what they want, and they’ll be falling all over you. What would that be? Just the facts about you, short and sweet. They’ll love you for it. Trust me.
Okay, that’s enough for now. Go forth, join a few free online dating sites, and snag a yummy Alpha! Use the info in this post to bait your profile with everything an Alpha likes to see in a woman. BTW, here’s a free online dating site I found the other day that looks like great fun. Plenty Offish. Ever heard of it?
Happy Alpha hunting!!
xoxo
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
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November 13th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
That’s where I’m at!
How do you know what type of woman you are? Is there a quiz for this sort of thing? lol
November 13th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Yeah, how about a place where you can pop-in a birth date and out pops a simple you are a “alpha, beta, gamma, or omega” answer.
Ja’niece
November 13th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
There might be, but here’s a quickie reference:
1.) Alphas (aggressive, assertive, protective, bossy, cranky, action-oriented)
2.) Uber-Alphas (multiply an Alpha times ten….realllllly cranky and bossy)
3.) Beta (happy-go-lucky, calm, sweet, nourishing, non-aggressive)
4.) Gamma (part Alpha/part Beta)
5.) Omega (a Beta with healing abilities like healing touch, etc. You find them most often in alternative healing jobs)
Hope this helps!
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
November 13th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
You crack me up! Well, I wish it was that simnple! But I have known Ubers and Alphas who were born under a traditionally Beta sun sign. You would have to look at the entire astrological chart. So the easiest way to tell is just by how they act.
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
November 14th, 2008 at 6:49 pm
I’m gonna check that dating site out. I’ve tried online dating sites before now…never actually had a date with them. I seem to attract oddballs like the one who was a very dodgy looking bloke twenty years older than me. And his profile / message to me was all in Italian. I erm, don’t speak a word of the language and this was on a British site too…
November 15th, 2008 at 4:34 am
I couldn’t figure out what a beta, gamma or omega male was, so I went googling.
Can I just say, whoever wrote this was kinda unfair. Not everyone feels the need to date during their teenage years…I mean it’s weird, but that doesn’t make them sexually undesirable.
And alphas sound like high maintenance people. As someone who religiously wears a t-shirt and pants I shudder at the whole idea.
November 15th, 2008 at 4:36 am
This second review on the page had me gasping for laughter.
Seriously…can’t…breathe…
November 15th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
I agree. The classification I use is more common. The person who wrote that blog obviously doesn’t like Betas (LOL). Or Omegas, and got the definition of an Omega in a wolf pack wrong too. There are also more Alphas out there than the low percentage quoted. Dear Goddess, I run into Alphas all the time!! I think there are just as many Alphas out there as there are Betas and Gammas. The lowest percentage does belong to the Omega though. But Omegas are NOT the undesirables mentioned in that blog. For example, I am an Omega. And I have been surrounded with men and boyfriends since I was 15, and I’ve been married for 30 years. Still I have a local and online “harem of men.” Enough said, right? Yeah, Omegas are HIGHLY desirable.
So don’t let this weird description discourage you. Yeesh! Stick with mine, and you will find your guy.
And, yes, Alphas are high maintenance. And Ubers are worse. What can I say? It’s all about them. Cracks me up! Although there is an upside to that. Alpha men are so NOT into emotional stuff that you can keep them on a need-t0-know basis for the rest of their lives. What does this mean? It means a stinker like me can get away with murder, and the Uber will never know unless I tell him (which usually takes about three tries to hit one of those seconds when he is actually listening to me and not fretting about something in his life). So when my friends who are married to Betas complain they can’t buy any new clothes because their hubbys will notice, I just smile. My Uber never notices anything I do or buy or say unless I bring it to his attention. Can you see the immense advantages to this now? Yeah, talk about freedom to be wicked. Love it!!!!
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
November 15th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
OMGODDESS! That second comment is hysterical!!! I would have never thought of that. Poor woman. She really needs a life, ya know? Or a sex life. Looks like she hasn’t got either one. ROFL
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
November 17th, 2008 at 8:32 am
My oldest brother’s like that. I wore the same blouse for two months to work, and then one day out of the blue he looks at me and goes, “Starsong…shouldn’t you button up that blouse a bit more?”
…Wait, what, you didn’t notice that there weren’t anymore buttons there and that I’ve been wearing it for the past two months?!
Also: Am so not above putting on the helpless look.
November 17th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
I found the constant back and forth of witty banter and flirting caught my Uber’s attention. Then the whole “damsel in distress” really got him. Then the bottle of vodka got him over to my place.
And the rest is history!