Lost in Space? Nope, Lost in Lust!! *wicked grin*
Either I’m a really strange person, or I’ve discovered the secret to being happily married to an Uber-Alpha. Seriously. Every long-term marriage goes through phases, and over the last 29 years mine has gone through plenty. In the beginning I was head-over-heels in love with my husband. But he’s an Uber-Alpha, and I quickly discovered they’re quite a challenge. On the negative side, they’re not very affectionate people. Also, they don’t talk a lot (unless they’re having a cranky Uber fit). I mean, I can have an entire conversation with my husband, and he’ll never respond once. I feel like I’m giving a speech or something. Plus, he rarely looks at me when I’m talking to him, so I have no idea if he’s even listening to me. Sometimes I want to pinch him and say,”Hey! Are you awake?!!” Mostly, Ubers just crank and snarl and act really Alpha.
Naturally, after a few years of this I became disillusioned. I always pictured the man I married being the kind of person I could tell my hopes and dreams to, someone I would feel a deep emotional attachment to, yadda, yadda. Well, just not happening with an Uber. So up until I was forty I was afraid I would fall in love with someone else. No kidding. I thought I would be an easy target if some sweet, affectionate guy came along who could easily express his loving feelings. You know, a Beta or a Gamma. In the meantime, I did the Southern Woman thing and built a strong network of girlfriends. They became the ones I went to when I had a problem. They were the ones who knew my hopes and dreams. They were the ones who became my cheering section when great things happened to me. And they still are. So after a while that deep emotional need in my life was adequately filled, and I was cool with that.
Considering all this, I suppose it was only a matter of time before the love/lust ratio in my marriage shifted, and I became more “in lust” with my husband than “in love” with him. But guess what? When that happened the quality of my marriage soared to new heights, and so did my happiness. What? Wait a minute!! I’d always heard you’re supposed to be madly in love with your husband, and that is the basis for a happy marriage. If so, why was being in lust working better for me?
I still don’t have the answer to that. All I know is my mind is so clouded with lust for my husband that I really don’t pay attention to anything else. Thus, none of his negative Uber qualities bother me anymore. Yeah, I have a one-track mind. All I care about is getting my hands on his body and having my wicked way with it. Also, as you may have guessed, I’m a very spontaneous person/lover. So I always tell my husband “I love you” the minute I feel it, which is often. That threw me, too. Why was I saying that when I knew I was more in lust than in love with him? Finally, I figured it out. What I really mean when I say “I love you” is “I love being in lust with you.” Okay, that makes sense. And just when I thought things couldn’t get any weirder, I noticed the more in lust I am with him the sweeter and more affectionate he is with me. So after following this bizarre path I ended up with a really good, happy marriage to an Uber-Alpha. Go figure.
All I can say is if you’re married to an Uber-Alpha and he’s driving you nuts with all the negative Uber stuff, try this. Change your love/lust ratio. Fall more in lust with him and less in love. Sounds crazy, but it works for me. Only let me warn you lust is very addicting. Truly. It’s like once you open the door to lust your “off switch” disappears. Pretty soon you’ll be so consumed with lust you’ll become totally overly sexed 24/7 like me. But, hey, there are worse things in life, right? At least you’ll have a reallllly good time….and so will your Uber-Alpha. *naughty grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
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