The One Who Got Away
One of my friends wrote something on her blog a few weeks ago that made me remember someone I haven’t thought about for over thirty years…the one who got away. She was wondering about the different paths our lives would’ve taken if we had made different decisions about the men in our lives.
The one who got away for me was a really nice guy I dated for a while the first year I attended the College of Charleston. We met in a Chinese history class. Believe it or not, he would walk with me to the business office every two weeks to pick up my work-study check. Guess who I had to pick up my check from? None other than my Uber-Alpha husband. I kid you not. We weren’t dating then, because my Uber was five years older and worked at the college. Besides he was just the man who gave me my check, so I never really considered dating him. But that’s how we met.
My Uber said I totally wowed him when I walked up to his desk that first time. I have green eyes and used to wear a fluffy green sweater back then when it was cold. He said my green eyes and long brown hair made such an impression on him that he checked my file and was delighted to discover I was older than I looked (I was 20 when I transferred to Charleston). That’s when he decided to ask me out. Not an easy task. I took one look at him (a pampered, yummy, ex-college basketball star) and ran as fast as I could in the opposite direction. I had no desire to become involved with an ego-maniac Uber-Alpha, no matter how good he looked. How was I supposed to know the man had gone on over 200 dates, and NO ONE had ever turned him down (much less run from him)? And how was I supposed to know Ubers LOVE that kind of challenge? Hestill played softball and basketball after work, and even had his own cluster of groupies to cheer for him. All the more reason to run from him. Silly me. LOL
Anyway, the nice guy who got away was only a year older. I liked him, but he scared me. He’d been married for two years to his high school sweetheart, and she had died the year before in a car accident in Atlanta. He had a house and a good career started and was ready to settle down again. He was definitely the marrying kind. Oh, and I forgot to mention he was totally yummy, too. Tall, lean, killer bod, not an ounce of fat on him, long brown hair. In fact he looked a lot like the pic of my character Wynn. No kidding.
But I could tell he was at a more mature place in his life than I was at that time. And that’s what scared the we-willies out of me. I had just escaped my abusive ex-fiancé in Georgia, and the last thing I wanted to do was to think about getting married again. Horrors! So I eventually stopped dating him. After a few months my Uber finally convinced me to go out with him, and a year later we were married. By then I was ready (much to my surprise).
Funny how things work out. However, I truly think things would have also worked out well if I’d married the nice guy. It’s comforting to know I had a couple of good-guy options back then. I don’t know how well the nice guy would have aged. He’d be 52 now, but I’ll bet he’s still gorgeous. He worked out and kept in good shape back then, because he was into karate (did I mention there wasn’t an ounce of fat on his gorgeous bod? Yummy!). But my Uber has aged well, too. In fact, when he walked through the door last night after work, a jolt of lust hit me so hard all I could think about was licking every inch of his bod. Yup, I definitely made a good decision thirty years ago. No doubt about it. *lusty grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
Laura Stamps (c)
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
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September 4th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
I’m glad your path led you where it did…after all the other guy might not have been so fond of you sharing all the intimate details of your sex life. Oh wait, neither is your Uber Alpha…haha
For me, I don’t have a one who got away. I know I made the right choice and some of the men I was with in the past were really bad choices. All because I had little to no self-esteem and was willing to settle for the bottom of the barrel. That changed and I got the cream of the crop! So, I am pretty content to have found my guy
Do you think the fact that the one who got away looks like Wynn might be why your Uber is not so fond of the picture? Or is it just the Uber attitude that no one looks as good as him?
September 4th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
At the moment I just have the one good-guy choice. My Uber is just the same, he loves the challenge. Although, right now it seems like I’m doing more chasing than he is. He’s holding off on the whole serious commitment, marriage, kids thing right now.
Anyways, it is interesting to think about.
September 4th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
Okay, I just have to ask, but did you happen to see the Writer’s Block today….”September is Pleasure Your Mate Month. Tell us: how do you like to pleasure your mate?”
Did you throw that in as a suggestion? LMAO
September 4th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
I did see that! And I totally meant to mention it!! That was hilarious!
Well I guess I need to get home and celebrate!
September 4th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
Hey, I may be simple but I’m not stupid!!! (ROFL) Okay, who knows why?, but most of my boyfriends were Alphas. Probably because I am an Omega, and we are the only ones who find them funny rather than irritating. Anyway, I knew from day one that my Uber was interested in me because he was always flirting with me or leering at me when I came to pick up my check. So I knew this was something my very nice (but Alpha) boyfriend would NOT like, so I always made him wait outside my Uber’s office, while I dashed in to get my check and tried to dash out as fast as I could to get away from my Uber. Seriously. I didn’t care for him at all.
In fact my Uber has always been on a “need to know” basis about most things in my life, and that includes past boyfriends. He only knew about my ex-fiancé and my Navy boyfriend. The Navy guy was the one I dated after I left the nice-guy Alpha and before I started dating my Uber. It was a period of about 3 months. I met him in Myrtle Beach (we had mutual friends), and our parents lived there. How do I say this? It was just a casual sex thing, although he wasn’t very good at it. So when I started going out with my Uber, and he kissed me and gave me a big O just from THAT, well, I told the Navy Alpha he was finished with me. Of course he was not happy (being an Alpha), but, hey, we all know how selfish I am sexually, so of course I am going to go where I can get what I need….SATISFACTION!!! My Uber knew about the Navy Alpha, because he made a stink about me leaving him. Don’t worry about him. The Navy Alpha married a really nice girl, and I heard the boink like wild rabbits all the time and live in California. So he had a HEA after all.
But no way did I tell my Uber about the nice-guy Alpha that looked like Wynn. Ha! Not only would he growl when he sees the pics of Wynn all over my office, but they would probably disappear. And we can’t have that, can we? No way! Wynn is such a TURN-ON!!! Gotta have my eye-candy every day, ya know? *wicked grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
September 4th, 2008 at 4:54 pm
The secret to getting an Uber interested is to act like you’re not. They can’t stand it. Chasing them never gets you what you want because Ubers expect women to chase them. Have I mentioned in the last ten minutes what ego-maniacs they are? *grin*
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
September 4th, 2008 at 4:58 pm
No, I don’t know what “Writer’s Block” is. So that wasn’t me. Sorry!
I hang our at my friend Ann’s blog (”Pop Culture Housewife”) and torment her with sexual stuff instead. Let’s see today it is about something I am going to do a blog post on….erotic nipple jewelry. Yeah! Oh, and how I think Harvey Keitel is sex-on-a-stick ever since I saw him in “The Piano.”
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)
September 4th, 2008 at 6:19 pm
Okay I am totally happy with my Hubby and have always been. But there was one that got away, Eddie, my high school crush, sweetheart whatever you want to call him. Eddie was the proverbial bad boy!! But praise the gods he was a dream to me. Long black hair, grey green eyes, built bod and well, ya know, BUILT!! We were dating at one time and then we became really good friends but we both loved each other very much, I guess I still love him to this day, I know I miss him alot and wonder how he is and what he is doing. The last I heard he had gotten into drugs really bad and was in prison in Texas. I knew he did drugs somewhat in High School but hell who didn’t but he never was high around me. He respected me for the way I felt about them, yes I did try pot in High School but all I ever got was the muchies from it. But I always wonder what would have happened if I had not joined the Army and had stayed home and been around with him. But that’s another story and another fantasy.
September 4th, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Wow, great story Christel!! Yeah, I would be wondering about him too. And he sounds SMOKING HOT!! With all the wild stuff we did in high school it is amazing we all ddn’t end up in worse trouble than we did, ya know?
Hey, I just sent you a PM at GR. And thanks for posting on my blog. Always wonderful to hear from you. Really!
xoxo
Laura Stamps
Author of Paranormal Romance and Erotica Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (to read excerpts from my novel series)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)